For our son.
This past Wednesday your dad and I quietly celebrated a milestone. We have been married now for Twenty years.
It has not always been fun or easy. But it has been a tremendous adventure.
Twenty
We had a total “meet cute”.
Eric Gunn was the next door neighbor to my cousin, Eric Ray, and his wife, Tara. We both attended Tara’s graduation from nursing school. Our eyes met and smiled, but we were not introduced. He later told me that since I had the mini Fashionista with me he assumed I was taken, “Because who, in their right mind, would ever let you go.”
Fast forward a few weeks later. I was attending a moving away party for my best friend Tracy. It was held at a sports bar of sorts. Our high school chum Tippy was playing in a band that night. A handsome gentleman, who I recognized but could not place, asked me to dance. Once he introduced himself the lightbulb came on and has forever since remained lit.
A few months later Eric, who was active duty military at the time, received orders for a move halfway around the world to a remote location. The 33-year-old-bachelor asked if I would accompany him. As his wife.
Adventure 1
After saying “yes” I did what any future bride would do.
I freaked out.
I was a divorced full-time parent of a seven-year-old girl. I could not afford to make a mistake with her emotions and heart.
So we decided that as a safety net we would attend premarital counseling which was offered by my beloved childhood pastor, Reverend Kersting.
It was perhaps the smartest thing we have ever done.
We began our engagement with a single reason. We were “in love”.
So naive, we thought that was enough.
We had not discussed politics, children, money, religion, …basically, everything important required for a successful long-term relationship.
Amazingly the stars aligned and we set a date. Our wedding was held the day before Easter. The date was selected as we both had very little money and I knew the church altar would be beautifully decorated with lilies and other flowers.
My dress was purchased off of a clearance rack for $100. (It was ivory and most brides wanted white.) I made all the decorations at the ceremony and reception myself. Our photographer was a college student with a camera.
From the very beginning of our relationship, I had firmly stated that the Fashionista and I were a package deal. Indeed long before Pinterest, this man asked to formally be her dad and presented her with a gold locket to seal the promise.
Eric insists it was the best 2 for 1 deal he ever received.
Adventure 2
Eric moved to the island of Crete a month ahead of us to find a house. My first glimpse of our home included a goat tied to an olive tree. You can see the house HERE. I was a spoiled American moving to a home with indoor plumbing but both the running water and electricity service were often interrupted. There was no McDonalds or Target. People still traveled by donkey. After about a month I broke down in tears because my washing machine was not working. As I opened the front door to sweep the porch I spied my landlord’s 80-year-old mother, Sophia, lighting a fire under her large outdoor kettle preparing to do her laundry. Her husband, Russo, was shuffling across the rocky terrain to the outhouse.
I promptly dried my tears and decided then and there to appreciate what I had.
I also discovered that Eric was willing to dress up.
But our time on Crete was not without hardships. My beloved grandma Mary passed away. A trip to Egypt resulted in me almost not recovering from salmonella poisoning. I was in quarantine intensive care for seven days.
Adventure 3,4,5….you get the idea
A year later we moved to Germany. My long-held dream of seeing the world was well within reach. But living on an airman’s small salary, I had to figure out a way to make it happen. I got a job as a tour guide with the U.S.O. If the tours were not sold out my family could accompany me for $5 a seat.
We saw it all.
The Biggest Adventure
But even with all this beauty, we felt there was something missing in our lives. Two and half long and disappointing years were filled with various infertility tests and treatments. We had begun to accept that the Fashionista would be our only child.
But I had faith. After an additional eight months of at home bed rest and hospitalization our sweet boy arrived. He weighed less than a five-pound bag of sugar.
The Adventure Continues
We eventually returned home to the states. Eric retired from the military and a few more moves were made for his new job. Each and every time I made sacrifices. To my schooling and my career. It was the same for him in other ways.
Over the years we have also faced the passing of several beloved family members and friends.
We lost almost everything we had financially and had to start over.
But we have done it TOGETHER.
We can fight like Mike Tyson and Evander Holyfield.
We even, on occasion, go to bed angry.
But we have refused to give up.
That is the secret.
We had planned to go to Ireland to celebrate our twenty years together. Then Storybook Cottage threw a steaming fit, became Nightmare Manor, and ate our travel budget.
So once again we have accepted and adjusted our dreams.
The traditional gift for a twentieth wedding anniversary is china.
Eric reminds me all the time that we do not NEED any more dishes. He’s right.
So instead we went out for a quiet dinner at a quaint Chinese restaurant.
Afterward, we took a stroll around the historic Fort Worth neighborhood. As I took a few photos a man approached us for a happy chat. Before he left us, not knowing it was our anniversary, he said to Mr. Decor, “Buddy, you have done really well with her.” My sweetheart wholeheartedly agreed.
But perhaps that is the second secret to Twenty years.
I think it was me who got the better end of the deal.
Mrs. Gunn
Rita C at Panoply says
What a twenty year gift of life adventures! You two are blessed. May you enjoy the fruits of your labors many, many more. Happy Anniversary!
Angela M. Boone says
This is beautiful and I enjoyed it so much! Happy anniversary my friend!
Kelley says
A very happy anniversary, you two!
*hugs*
Kelley~
Marty Oravetz says
Having you two as friends is a Blessing. You both are such special people and you do make the most amazing pair. Happy Anniversary and I hope you have 100 more.
Linda Kelley says
This beautiful post, you two, make me smile and cry. God’s blessings to you always.
Love, Linda
Lorrie says
Congratulations Eric and Laura! I think it’s those hard times that help create a strong marriage. When you are away from everything familiar, you turn to each other. That was our experience. Wishing you joy for the next 20!
Barbara H. says
I love hearing this! Happy anniversary!
Dixie Lee says
May you celebrate many more anniversaries! I’m sure you will find a way to travel more someday.
Mildred Nalley says
Happy Anniversary dear friend. I have known you for about the last ten years. It, indeed, is a blessing to know you and your husband and your children. You are an inspiration. May the Lord richly bless you all in the next 20 years.
Terri says
What a beautiful story !! Happy Anniversary !!!
Jeanne says
What a Lovely Life Adventure. Congratulations!
jeanie says
Mrs. Gunn, I think you both did pretty well in the bargain, as did that little baby and the fashionista! You say it so well — it is what marriage, relationships, life itself is all about. A beautiful love story and a neverending one. I love it and wish you both love, congratulations and much joy!
Jenny says
What a beautiful, exciting, and inspiring love story. Thank you so much for sharing. Best wishes for many, many more happy years together.
Kiki Nakita says
Wishing you a happy 20th anniversary. Love your story.
Ginene P Nagel says
Oh, how I loved your story. I laughed over the what must have been the look on your face when you saw the woman next door washing her clothes in the kettle! What a riot! I love stories like yours. You know what, Laura? From the way you describe your husband and from what he says about you, I can see that there is love and respect there. Lots of work, but you still got lucky, girl. You both did.
Ginene
Bonnie Morgan says
Wonderful post. Congratulations on twenty years. What an adventure!
Donna says
What an absolutely fascinating story! It was (and still is) an adventure. Congratulations and wishing you many more happy years. xoxo
Vicki says
Happy Anniversary! It is so inspiring to see the hand of God in your journey. Continued blessings for the next twenty years.
Mary Steinbrink says
What a beautiful post to celebrate a wonderful couple! Happy Anniversary and may God bless you with many more wonderful years together!
Joan - My Cookie Clinic says
Hi Laura, I enjoyed reading about your amazing love story. Congrats on your 20th Anniversary and …. you have not aged a day! Take care.
auntie em says
Your story is so sweet and romantic. And best of all its real and not some fairy tale. Congratulations to you two and your family on twenty years of building a family together.
The things that really matter are definitely not what you have or where you are, but who you are with. I totally understand the need to get into the ‘ring’ once in a while to ‘clear the air’. Not fun but afterwards hopefully you have gained new insight and managed to figure out how to make things work together. And then you pick up and carry on together.
I love your style of writing, its so natural and endearing. You share your heart in your writing. Thank you so much for sharing and being you! {{{hugs}}}
Sandra at Maison De Jardin says
What a beautiful LOVE story! Happy anniversary and many blessings in the years ahead.
deanna says
CONGRATS!!!!! That is wonderful. Heres to 20 more. We celebrate 44 in August.
Wonderful photographs.
Enjoyed reading this post,
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